Control freaks are very uncomfortable when they discover they're not in control of life's outcomes, but it’s not a bad discovery. This is truly a significant discovery on the road to renewal and wholeness. In fact the 12-step recovery movement, which has helped countless men and women leave addiction behind, recognizes that the first step towards wholeness in life is the ability to admit “I am powerless over ________ and my life has become unmanageable.” Recognizing our inability to manage life is an important step towards actually having a life. Real living happens for those who can admit, “I don’t control outcomes.” So enjoy being totally out of control. You never were in control anyway.